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The Boundaries I Needed to Create Alongside My Husband’s PTSD, and How I Enforce Them

For every one of the six long years since PTSD became a part of our lives, I truly believed I was helping my husband. I thought that, with every suggestion I made to him and every frustration I withheld from him, I was being a supportive wife and a compassionate partner. But when I finally … Continue reading The Boundaries I Needed to Create Alongside My Husband’s PTSD, and How I Enforce Them

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How I Stopped Enabling my Husband with PTSD, and Started Supporting Him

His outbursts were starting to come out of nowhere. His anger was getting unbearable. I didn't realise it at the time, but I had begun walking on eggshells, every single day. So when we discovered that my husband's changing behaviour had a rational reason, it was something of a relief. Post traumatic stress disorder. PTSD. I was under no … Continue reading How I Stopped Enabling my Husband with PTSD, and Started Supporting Him

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Yesterday We Seemed a World Apart, but Today We Are Both Just Mothers

You are a patient. Just one of many in an already-overwhelmed system, following the protocols, ticking the little boxes on crisp white paper. And I am a healthcare professional, submerged in the same system, following the same protocols, ticking a corresponding row of little boxes on crisp white paper. You are my patient. Walking through the pharmacy's brightly lit … Continue reading Yesterday We Seemed a World Apart, but Today We Are Both Just Mothers

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“Please Don’t Shout at Me” – What Your Child Wants You to Know

You communicate with me, and connect with me in more ways than you realise. With your eyes when you look at my treasured fish drawings. With your ears when you listen to me singing my songs about lizards. With your touch when you hug me goodnight with a squeezy cuddle for the eleventh time. And with your voice … Continue reading “Please Don’t Shout at Me” – What Your Child Wants You to Know

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You Have Found Me Because PTSD Has Found You

There was once a time in my life that PTSD were just four innocent letters of the alphabet. Put together, my medical books told me these letters described a condition called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The textbooks explained the nature of psychological injuries. They described the ensuing depression, anxiety, sleep disturbances, hypervigilance, and substance abuse. They outlined … Continue reading You Have Found Me Because PTSD Has Found You